Today I want to talk about my thoughts about friendship. I'm sure everyone has its own story and its own thoughts about how wonderful is to be able to have good friends around us and how important is to have friends in life. I do think these things too... but I need to be sincere with myself in this blog. I have a very unique way of defining friendship, maybe too obsessed and too perfectionist as Star might say. I don't have (because I don't like/want) to have a lot of friends, those who you just hang out and talk banal stuffs, who you cannot behave 100% of yourself, who you can not be frank to. My definition of a friend is someone you can talk whatever you want, treat them as your family, take care of them unconditionally, never distrust them, never doubt about their love to you. At the same time, I want him/her to be sincere, direct and totally 100% of him/herself. What I can't tolerate is double-faced people. Obviously, because of my criteria of friend is so narrow and so "strict" I only have countable friends. But I'm very luck to have them, I enjoy being with them. You know, those moments are the one that you can relax yourself and take off the mask we put on us to face the world. If I had to define three qualities that I value most in a person to be a friend would be: sincerity, fun and a good heart. As you can see I put sincerity in the first place. I am aware of how hard could be to be sincere sometimes because we might fear that telling the truth might hurt others feeling. However, if this person is my friend, I know he/she won't get mad at me if he/she knows that I'm telling the truth and I'm being sincere. I remember once I made brownies and gave a friend to taste.... first he was excited of trying it since he's a big brownie lover.... but after first bite, his face changed completely and asked me: "did you put walnuts in it?" "yes, of course, they add extra crunchiness" I said. "oh... I hate walnuts. Can I give it back to you? Thanks a lot but I really don't like this" he said. My first impression was disappointment obviously, but then I took the piece back and was not annoyed at all. Actually I was happy to hear a sincere opinion of him. I'd prefer him to tell me on face that he didn't like it instead of throwing it away later anyway. So, what's your thoughts about friendship? What would be the three most important qualities you look in a friend?
Rambling section ends!
Back to yesterday. I met with my main advisor and he was pleased with my work and approved it to be my dissertation topic!!! That's huge progress. You know, once the topic is defined and half worked, it's so much easier. The worst part of the research is finding The topic. It took me about 6 stressful months, I'm finally settle down with this one. I'm so happy~~~~ ^_^
Breakfast, with no surprise was fruits, double toasted muffin, laughing cow and chocolate PB.
AM snack while I was holding office hour: coffee + cereal bar from Argentina.
Lunch: leftover onion & shrimp stir fry that I add some broccoli slaw, soy knot with black fungus and mix of barley and brown rice.
Dessert: chocolate mousse.
PM snack: 1/2 c. fage + vanilla + mixgranola.
a strawberry bar from Arg while I was catching up with FTs.
I went to a spin class, a good sweaty workout and came home for a meah dinnah: soupless soup (I added more frozen spinach and okra to the mushroom soup0 and a steamed corn.
: another chocolate mousse and a bowl of fage with double berries.
Question: What your plan this weekend? Mine will be finish up the .ppt, maybe a movie (Fast and Furious), or meeting with a friend, or both! ^_^